“Oooh, a woman concealing her age in 2018 – How cliché!”
It’s called a personal prerogative, so sue me.
One can’t be too careful turning twenty-something – Don’t you know we live in a dangerous world today?
It’s not just the lions, tigers and bears (oh my!) to watch out for anymore, but also the occasional life lesson, holiday fiascos, dealing with once-in-a-blue-moon-soulmates, and discovering your inner maturity whilst freezing your nips off in the middle of China.
Along the way, you pick up a couple of things.
Some things fairly useless, like learning how to put on a straight face whilst eating beansprouts (you keep your neck tense).
Other things, slightly more useful, like:
- Relishing in the peace and tranquility that comes with being alone.
- Understanding that the things people do is a reflection of themselves, not you.
- Disbelieving the ‘New Year, New Me’ bullshit. You’re still you, just a year older, with better hair.
- Leaving your thermos at work, because no one likes cold tea or 24-degree milo.
- Spending time with your old dog, because every great thing has a shelf life.
- Remembering that you literally don’t have to be friends with people you don’t like.
- Smiling, which goes a long, long way.
- Knowing that excessive worrying about things you can’t control is a waste of time. If they’re going to think of you badly, they will. If they’ve chosen to be your friend and stick by you, they will.
- Never feeling compelled to make small talk if you just don’t feel like it. Just look at Jordan Schlansky.
- Appreciating your parents, because no matter how horrible/critical/seemingly judgemental they are, are always on your side. Luke and Vadar is a different story.
- Respecting yourself and staying true to your beliefs. Personally, I don’t drink, and have gotten A LOT OF FLACK FOR IT from people who always felt the need to pressure me into “just taking a sip”. It’s a lifestyle choice, and if people can’t respect that, it’s on them, not you.
- Being so hard on yourself futile. I always told my best friend that all the harsh things she said to herself, she would never say a single one to me. As my favourite doctor, Dr. Seuss once said: “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
- Taking it with a pinch of salt. My brain thinks this way now: If they aren’t going to matter in 3 years, don’t give them the time of day for more than 3 minutes.
- Being patient. I used to be so affected by not being recognised for my efforts, the hard work I put into a something, and all the untapped potential I have that was blatantly ignored. Still, I’ve learnt that everything in life comes full circle – Truths come to light, talent gets tapped, potential receives due recognition, and traits like passion, dedication, integrity and talent, recognised.