Things I’ve learnt from being Twenty-Something

“Oooh, a woman concealing her age in 2018 – How cliché!”

It’s called a personal prerogative, so sue me. 

One can’t be too careful turning twenty-something – Don’t you know we live in a dangerous world today?

It’s not just the lions, tigers and bears (oh my!) to watch out for anymore, but also the occasional life lesson, holiday fiascos, dealing with once-in-a-blue-moon-soulmates, and discovering your inner maturity whilst freezing your nips off in the middle of China. 

Along the way, you pick up a couple of things.
Some things fairly useless, like learning how to put on a straight face whilst eating beansprouts (you keep your neck tense).

Other things, slightly more useful, like:

  1. Relishing in the peace and tranquility that comes with being alone.
  2. Understanding that the things people do is a reflection of themselves, not you.
  3. Disbelieving the ‘New Year, New Me’ bullshit. You’re still you, just a year older, with better hair.
  4. Leaving your thermos at work, because no one likes cold tea or 24-degree milo.
  5. Spending time with your old dog, because every great thing has a shelf life.
  6. Remembering that you literally don’t have to be friends with people you don’t like.
  7. Smiling, which goes a long, long way.
  8. Knowing that excessive worrying about things you can’t control is a waste of time. If they’re going to think of you badly, they will. If they’ve chosen to be your friend and stick by you, they will.
  9. Never feeling compelled to make small talk if you just don’t feel like it. Just look at Jordan Schlansky.
  10. Appreciating your parents, because no matter how horrible/critical/seemingly judgemental they are, are always on your side. Luke and Vadar is a different story.
  11. Respecting yourself and staying true to your beliefs. Personally, I don’t drink, and have gotten A LOT OF FLACK FOR IT from people who always felt the need to pressure me into “just taking a sip”. It’s a lifestyle choice, and if people can’t respect that, it’s on them, not you.
  12. Being so hard on yourself futile. I always told my best friend that all the harsh things she said to herself, she would never say a single one to me. As my favourite doctor, Dr. Seuss once said: “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
  13. Taking it with a pinch of salt. My brain thinks this way now: If they aren’t going to matter in 3 years, don’t give them the time of day for more than 3 minutes.
  14. Being patient. I used to be so affected by not being recognised for my efforts,  the hard work I put into a something, and all the untapped potential I have that was blatantly ignored. Still, I’ve learnt that everything in life comes full circle – Truths come to light, talent gets tapped, potential receives due recognition, and traits like passion, dedication, integrity and talent, recognised.

That’s it for me this May 24th, see you kiddies in a year.